After reading Liu’s experience, what strikes me most is that the need of being with Chinese. I had the same thought with Liu, and I can understand him. It’s pretty easy to explain that a man who suddenly immerses into a totally different situation will confront so many difficulties on language, food, getting friends and study. For Liu’s confusion, loneliness may be the most fundamental obstacle that should be pointed out, instead of language. I was and I am experiencing same loneliness as Liu’s.
At the international orientation, I met a brunch of Chinese friends, I felt so happy at the very beginning in Delaware, for I didn’t suffer from loneliness at all! We ate, we chatted, we played and we laughed, which was a terrific start to me. Nevertheless, things went to another side when we thought our friendship will be lasted forever.
As I’m the southerner among the group of northerners, perhaps we differed on the way of humor. Consequently, in a warm evening, without any notice, one of my friends was exasperated against me after we all come back to Smyth, the building we are living. I had no idea for why he was back off, for we just had a relaxed chat while coming back! At that moment, I thought thing will become butter after he chilled out. Far beyond my expectation, he still seems to be so angry when I saw him in the dinner hall next day. What did I exactly do could make him accumulate so much hatred that could last overnight? No answer they gave. The only change I realized was that they didn’t invite me to any activities since that night.
From a person they loved to a person they isolated, that’s where my loneliness came from. which was the feeling that I’d never experienced because I was always so popular in my former college in south of China. At those nights, I always made several phone calls to China for finding some friend to speak Cantonese, my mother language.
I have an overall awareness of Liu’s experience that loneliness is not the obstacle on doing something, but a nightmare that occupies our mind, haunting us, taunting us. Everyone needs friends, for we aren’t the single island on the sea. We all want to find someone to share our happiness or sadness without any difficulty on language, which may be the reason for Liu to be with Chinese.After reading Liu’s experience, what strikes me most is that the need of being with Chinese. I had the same thought with Liu, and I can understand him. It’s pretty easy to explain that a man who suddenly immerses into a totally different situation will confront so many difficulties on language, food, getting friends and study. For Liu’s confusion, loneliness may be the most fundamental obstacle that should be pointed out, instead of language. I was and I am experiencing same loneliness as Liu’s.
At the international orientation, I met a brunch of Chinese friends, I felt so happy at the very beginning in Delaware, for I didn’t suffer from loneliness at all! We ate, we chatted, we played and we laughed, which was a terrific start to me. Nevertheless, things went to another side when we thought our friendship will be lasted forever.
As I’m the southerner among the group of northerners, perhaps we differed on the way of humor. Consequently, in a warm evening, without any notice, one of my friends was exasperated against me after we all come back to Smyth, the building we are living. I had no idea for why he was back off, for we just had a relaxed chat while coming back! At that moment, I thought thing will become butter after he chilled out. Far beyond my expectation, he still seems to be so angry when I saw him in the dinner hall next day. What did I exactly do could make him accumulate so much hatred that could last overnight? No answer they gave. The only change I realized was that they didn’t invite me to any activities since that night.
From a person they loved to a person they isolated, that’s where my loneliness came from. which was the feeling that I’d never experienced because I was always so popular in my former college in south of China. At those nights, I always made several phone calls to China for finding some friend to speak Cantonese, my mother language.
I have an overall awareness of Liu’s experience that loneliness is not the obstacle on doing something, but a nightmare that occupies our mind, haunting us, daunting us, or even taunting us. Everyone needs friends, for we aren’t the single island on the sea. We all want to find someone to share our happiness or sadness without any difficulty on language, which may be the reason for Liu to be with Chinese.
2009年9月26日星期六
2009年9月20日星期日
Different Culture with Different Nonverbal Communication
From the introduction of nonverbal communication, I'm aware of so many difference between that kind of communication and the one in China theoretically, which I never think before since I've come to America. The distinction may be lied on the eye contact, the gesture and the body space.
The first difference that impressed me a lot is the way of eye contact. In China, as the people are relatively introversive, especially when communicating with stranger, they will have little eye contact with you, instead of watching you in a normal way or sometimes glancing to somewhere for inspiring some new topics to discuss with. However, In America, even if my English is not so good that can't chat with somebody in a original American voice and speed, I can still catch their mean in most occasion, because it's readily for me to get some idea from their eyeballs. When they are amazing for something interesting, they will pop and keep their eyes; while falling into thinking, their focus will cast a look at far distance and the frown will be showed up. I can experience why the versifiers will compare eyes as "the window of soul" from American.
Another distinction is about the gesture. After coming here, I found myself that the time of shaking hand here is more than that of my entire life in China. Because this kind of showing amity is used to meet someone who is important but not so familiar with, acting as a formal way in sociality or doing business. On the contrary, hand shake become an both formal and informal way to express our friendliness. Whenever I meet a group of new friends, they always say "nice to meet you, Adam", accompanying shaking hand with me. While seeing my roommate or some buddies, we even has a set of complex forms of hand shake. It's very amusing to comprehend each meaning of those.
Last one I want to compare is the space between two people. I used to keep about 3 feet with stranger while staying in China. But I notice that the people seem to be filled of passion that they will get close with me and will get closer when they share the same idea with or feel interesting on what I've said. The change of the body space really works because it makes me feel the invisible wall stood between two people being tore down, which will directly lead to the conversation become much more enjoyable and comfortable.
On seeing so much difference between Chinese culture and American culture on the nonverbal communication, distinction isn't what I'm worried about, as a student studying abroad, the fusion of those two culture and applying into my daily life are what I have to do.
The first difference that impressed me a lot is the way of eye contact. In China, as the people are relatively introversive, especially when communicating with stranger, they will have little eye contact with you, instead of watching you in a normal way or sometimes glancing to somewhere for inspiring some new topics to discuss with. However, In America, even if my English is not so good that can't chat with somebody in a original American voice and speed, I can still catch their mean in most occasion, because it's readily for me to get some idea from their eyeballs. When they are amazing for something interesting, they will pop and keep their eyes; while falling into thinking, their focus will cast a look at far distance and the frown will be showed up. I can experience why the versifiers will compare eyes as "the window of soul" from American.
Another distinction is about the gesture. After coming here, I found myself that the time of shaking hand here is more than that of my entire life in China. Because this kind of showing amity is used to meet someone who is important but not so familiar with, acting as a formal way in sociality or doing business. On the contrary, hand shake become an both formal and informal way to express our friendliness. Whenever I meet a group of new friends, they always say "nice to meet you, Adam", accompanying shaking hand with me. While seeing my roommate or some buddies, we even has a set of complex forms of hand shake. It's very amusing to comprehend each meaning of those.
Last one I want to compare is the space between two people. I used to keep about 3 feet with stranger while staying in China. But I notice that the people seem to be filled of passion that they will get close with me and will get closer when they share the same idea with or feel interesting on what I've said. The change of the body space really works because it makes me feel the invisible wall stood between two people being tore down, which will directly lead to the conversation become much more enjoyable and comfortable.
On seeing so much difference between Chinese culture and American culture on the nonverbal communication, distinction isn't what I'm worried about, as a student studying abroad, the fusion of those two culture and applying into my daily life are what I have to do.
2009年9月13日星期日
As coming from China, I have immersed into the Chinese culture for over 20 years, being influenced by such culture in the way of communication.Also, I have a bit awareness about the role that the culture plays in the aspect of socialization, I will illustrate it in the following passage.
The Chinese culture is not a exoteric culture, but a implicit one.People accustom to express themselves by using the implied word, especially when introducing to a stranger, trying to be a cautious man without any aggressive behavior that may offend the other.Consequently, we avoid to talk about the celebrities or the events that are debatable, instead of talking about something enjoyable, such as the common friends or the moives that the person you talk to are interested in.Definitely, we are all willing to share the joys with the new friend we meet, but we seldem our sorrows except facing the close friend, for we are all afraid to bring the atomsphere to frozen point, if the listener cannot share the same emotion and not react to the issue correctly.
Logically, living in this culture will encourage us to suppress our emtion , bring tension to our mind.However, we will try to show our negative emotion in a easy way, like taunting about ourselves or making a cold joke on the person whom you hate.On the contrary, we also stay with the line while demostrating our affection to the other. For example, regularly, we will embrace or shake hand with the friends but not kiss them in public, which is the consequence of the style of education that has been lasted for thousands of year.From kindergarden to high school,we are always told that we shouldn't be too active to express ourselves in a superficial way but let other to understand our mind.
In a conclusion,from the obscure poem of ancient time to the Chinese style of communication, we keep learning the conventional culture and showing it to the way of socialization.
The Chinese culture is not a exoteric culture, but a implicit one.People accustom to express themselves by using the implied word, especially when introducing to a stranger, trying to be a cautious man without any aggressive behavior that may offend the other.Consequently, we avoid to talk about the celebrities or the events that are debatable, instead of talking about something enjoyable, such as the common friends or the moives that the person you talk to are interested in.Definitely, we are all willing to share the joys with the new friend we meet, but we seldem our sorrows except facing the close friend, for we are all afraid to bring the atomsphere to frozen point, if the listener cannot share the same emotion and not react to the issue correctly.
Logically, living in this culture will encourage us to suppress our emtion , bring tension to our mind.However, we will try to show our negative emotion in a easy way, like taunting about ourselves or making a cold joke on the person whom you hate.On the contrary, we also stay with the line while demostrating our affection to the other. For example, regularly, we will embrace or shake hand with the friends but not kiss them in public, which is the consequence of the style of education that has been lasted for thousands of year.From kindergarden to high school,we are always told that we shouldn't be too active to express ourselves in a superficial way but let other to understand our mind.
In a conclusion,from the obscure poem of ancient time to the Chinese style of communication, we keep learning the conventional culture and showing it to the way of socialization.
2009年9月7日星期一
What Mother's Tounge reminds me
After reading the Mother's Tounge, a piece of memory comes to my mind that I haven't spoken Cantonese with my friends for more than half a month since I came to America. I miss that kind of language, and I miss the special way of communication with my family and the distintion of our tounge.
My hometown is Canton, a metropolis of China, located in the southern region. The people living there are customed to speak Cantonese, so do me.Nevertheless, my whole family speak mandarin, for they immigrated from the north of China twenty years ago, consiquetly, it's a bit difficult for me to translate Cantonese into Mandarin while describing a object. For instance, when talking about "vanilla", as influenced by the accent of Hong Kong, we always say vanilla in Cantonese, which is similar to pure English. On the contrary, my family will never understand or remember the way I speak, so I have to change it into Mandarin. Just as the situation that Tan had met in her childhood, what my family said served as a huge obstacle for me to master Cantonese, for such two kind of languages are almost opposite.As a result, I spoke Cantonese so poor that I once hated Mandarin at the first period of learning Cantonese.
Another huge difference is that way between formal expression and informal expression. In Cantonese, we will simplify our sentence as much as we can while using informal expression, however, our sentence will be perfectly decorated and will be extended by using literary word on it. For examly, we will say "I try to do something" as an informal way, while saying "I spare no effort on doing somehing".It seems to be a bit complex, right? But at least, both of that expression is readity for everybody to accept.Unlike the tounge of Tan's mother, the sentance is vivid for Tan but incomprehensible for the other. After all, the sentence of pure Cantonese has wonderfully grammatical constructed.
Last of all, after reading that artical, it reminds me a lot about the generation gap between my family and me and the diffence kind construction of my mother language.When comparing the distinction, it will be a terrific method to achieve better understanding of my language, so as to learn English.Thanks for Ammy Tan and her Mother's Tounge.
My hometown is Canton, a metropolis of China, located in the southern region. The people living there are customed to speak Cantonese, so do me.Nevertheless, my whole family speak mandarin, for they immigrated from the north of China twenty years ago, consiquetly, it's a bit difficult for me to translate Cantonese into Mandarin while describing a object. For instance, when talking about "vanilla", as influenced by the accent of Hong Kong, we always say vanilla in Cantonese, which is similar to pure English. On the contrary, my family will never understand or remember the way I speak, so I have to change it into Mandarin. Just as the situation that Tan had met in her childhood, what my family said served as a huge obstacle for me to master Cantonese, for such two kind of languages are almost opposite.As a result, I spoke Cantonese so poor that I once hated Mandarin at the first period of learning Cantonese.
Another huge difference is that way between formal expression and informal expression. In Cantonese, we will simplify our sentence as much as we can while using informal expression, however, our sentence will be perfectly decorated and will be extended by using literary word on it. For examly, we will say "I try to do something" as an informal way, while saying "I spare no effort on doing somehing".It seems to be a bit complex, right? But at least, both of that expression is readity for everybody to accept.Unlike the tounge of Tan's mother, the sentance is vivid for Tan but incomprehensible for the other. After all, the sentence of pure Cantonese has wonderfully grammatical constructed.
Last of all, after reading that artical, it reminds me a lot about the generation gap between my family and me and the diffence kind construction of my mother language.When comparing the distinction, it will be a terrific method to achieve better understanding of my language, so as to learn English.Thanks for Ammy Tan and her Mother's Tounge.
2009年9月4日星期五
about myself
Hello everybody! Welcome to the blog of Adam Chen!Just call me Adam.I'm pretty glad to open a blog here and to communicate with you all. Born in 1989,I'm the 2013 student of UD, travelling a thousand mile from China to attent this paramount university. Till now, my major is math, it maybe a bit challening for me, but I do desire to learn more and get more pracitise in this exciting field.At the rest of the class, I will be a big fan of sport. Playing badminton, table pool and tennis is one part of my schedule every week. Hope play with you at the court!I'm proud of my family, who support a lot when I feel sad or face some difficulties, and they also gave me so much confidence when applying this university.I've got to say:Father and mother I love you!
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